Reflection #4

     Some of my peers are in relationships. But not only in those which last a month – they have got a girlfriend or boyfriend for at least a year.
I – a person which have never been in an any type of romantic relationship – ask myself a question – why?
Why are they still with the same person when they are 17 years old? Is it routine? Or, somehow, they actually are happy and want to be with this person in future?
To reveal the „truth” I made three interviews. And the answers surprised me.
     All of questioned are 17 and in relationships at least sice 2017. Not all of them forecast that their relationships were going to last so long, but they all want to still be in a relationship. They are happy, they don't feel limited and they don't regret being with one person.
What shocked me the most was that they hope to be with the same person to the end of high school, during studying on university, they want to live together and even create a family. They feel like their partner is the only human on the Earth that understands them.
     I was also curious what is cheating for them and what are their views on it – maybe ignoring all types of disloyalty  is a recipe for perfect relationship among teenagers?
They told me that kissing, fantasizing or other intimate interactions are called cheating. I asked them which type of cheating is worse – physical or emotional. Answers were not alike – some of them couldn't decide or chose that cheating is cheating and cheating is bad, no matter if it is doing stuff with somebody or just fantasizing about someone else.
I checked if a person not in relationship has got the same view. And yes, cheating is very bad, but it is not just kissing or just hooking up with somebody – cheating is breaking the rules made by people in relationship and destroying all the trust.
     After interviews I, again, asked myself a question – why are they thinking about living together, marriage, family, when I don't know what I will do tomorrow? Does being in serious relationship make us more mature or maybe only mature people are in serious, for their age, relationships? Will my mind change when I am with somebody? I hope not.
     I believe that it all depends on cause of being in relationship. Everybody is looking for something else. It is good to try to understand other people's thoughts, but we should never forget about ourselves.
     By making these interviews, creating questions and analyzing answers I understood how different I am from some of my peers. And that I don't need to change my mind.
     Some of my peers are in relationships. I am not.